I have been blessed with a good life. First, I live in Canada, enough said. Second, I have been able to meet incredible people who motivate, inspire and remind me that life is truly what you make of it. You ultimately are in charge of the roller coaster that you ride.
I have been fortunate that one of my closest friends has been Robin Sharma the international best selling author, sought after speaker and the coach of billionaires world wide. I think we are friends because I don’t look to him to coach me, change my life or impart life changing wisdom. I look to him for friendship, camaraderie and social conversation. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t push me with hard questions about my life. In fact I remember about five years ago over a cup of tea he told me I needed to take APR or Absolute Personal Responsibility. This has been ringing around my head lately. It is becoming clearer and clearer with each decision I make or think of making.
We all play the blame game. Our lives would always be better if someone did something different, lived somewhere else, had more money, better education, different family or friends, made a different choice or someone did their job better. Thankfully there are few of us that can look at a negative situation and say… “How could I have done better?” or “How did I get in this position?”. Be objective and try and learn and grow.
Buddha says, “We are exactly where we are supposed to be.”
Maybe it’s an age thing, life experience or being more open than most. I know people in my life right now that are playing the blame game and even bought a pass to ride the “bitter bus”. Get off!
It’s true there may be outside forces or issues that will force you into situations or places that you may not want or feel uncomfortable in. So what! You’re not alone, we all deal with it, every single day. The bottom line we need as humans and as leaders to take some APR. There are two quotes to think about:
1. “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it” - Charles Swindoll
2. “Don’t burn the bridges on the way up because you may need to cross them again on the way back down.” - Stu Saunders
Take action today and start to realize that this is your life. Take it by the horns and love it, blame free!